The next time you meet someone new, try this: Assume they have something they can teach you.
It could be a coffee with a new acquaintance, a big meeting at the office with several co-workers, or a casual chat at a cocktail party. No matter who they are, or what they do, make that simple assumption: They know something you don’t, but they’d be happy to tell you more about it — if only you asked!
What happens when you meet someone and you’re curious to learn more from them?
1) You ask more questions.
2) You listen more closely.
3) You end up building deeper relationships with them — and perhaps sparking the types of conversations that can lead to new ideas and initiatives.
Just that one shift in perspective — this new person has something to teach me! — can change the way you approach a conversation. It can put you in a mindset where you’re curious to learn.
I know I’m sometimes guilty of shutting myself off from conversation before one even starts. I do it for all sorts of reasons: I’m busy, I’m tired, or I’m just disinterested. Sometimes, on my worst days, I’ll sit in on a meeting and think, “I know more than these people.” That’s always a mistake — I’ve eliminated the chance of learning something right from the start.
Instead, keep that open mindset. Ask lots of questions, and be willing to challenge yourself and your own beliefs. You never know when you’re going to meet someone who might teach you something new.
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That photo of a dog with big ears — the better for listening, obviously — comes via Kyle Smith and Unsplash.