“There is a direct relationship between your ability to handle uncertainty and your happiness.” — Joshua Fields Millburn
We’re all going to make mistakes in our work. We’re going to go directions we didn’t expect. We’re going to make choices we don’t like.
But here’s what happens next: It’s normal for us to ask forgiveness of others. We make a wrong choice that hurts someone else, and we tell that person, I’m sorry.
What doesn’t happen, I’ve found, is that we forgive ourselves for the mistakes we make in our own work. I know I’m guilty of this myself: Something goes wrong in my work, and I won’t let it go for months.
I have to learn how to forgive myself for making the mistakes that I know I’m going to make along the way. Screw ups happen. It’s okay.
And it’s not like the screw ups were in vain. I really have learned from many of my mistakes. They’ve taken me a step further in my work.
Sometimes, I’ll look back on these mistakes with amazement.
You did THAT?
You chose THAT?
You said WHAT?
Yes, mistakes happen. And I know now: Time makes things better. Time lets you move on.
But you have to find ways to move on long before then. Otherwise, your work gets held up along the way.
Life goes on, no matter what the hell you do. It really does.
Give yourself permission to go on, and then get on with it.